I’ve never figured out how fantasies work. I mean, I understand the concept. I’m going to imagine myself in a sexual situation, and I’m going to find that pleasing, and maybe I’ll even synchronize it with my masturbation to increase my pleasure level. Except with me, it’s more like: I’m going to imagine myself in a sexual situation and what is going on and this is too complicated goodbye.
I’ve tried picturing celebrities naked, but they usually turn out featureless.
I’ve tried mentally undressing people, but I usually can only get about as far as taking off the socks before I lose my concentration or have some quibble with the imaginary physics and I start over, only to have the person in the fantasy get frustrated with the number of takes I’m doing and storm out.
I’ve tried imagining having sex, but I tend to get hung up somewhere around asking for permission and foreplay, then it all falls apart.
I’ve tried thinking about someone else touching me, but where and why and I don’t really like to be touched so hands off imaginary person.
I’ve tried putting myself in the place of someone in porn, but I can’t actually imagine myself doing what any of the performers do because all that would be far too strenuous.
I’ve tried to put myself into a solo scene as a second participant, but it’s like okay, I’ll kiss that, caress that, suck on-no, wait-suck on that and caress this, right, I think that’s how it works, and okay, now I’ll put this in here and… Um. What now? Wait, I think I’m using more hands than I have…
I’ve had some limited success by imagining that I’m showing someone what I’m doing, but I think that only works because most of that is doing what I’m already doing.
For me, fantasies require too much effort and concentration. A fantasy is kinda useless when you have to expend so much energy to conjure one up that you end up losing your erection in the process… I get the feeling that fantasies are not nearly this difficult for other people, even some other aces.