I have not felt many types of attraction. Aesthetic attraction is about the only one I know I’ve felt. Sexual, sensual, no, romantic, maybe but probably not?
Aesthetic attraction feels very similar to the feeling of looking at a cute puppy or a beautiful sunset. The person is pleasant to look at, and there is some level of joy in looking at them, but that’s as far as it goes. There’s no thoughts about trying to get with them in any way. Just “they look nice” and that’s it.
Sexual attraction I know I’ve never felt, because I’ve seen other people experience it, talk about it, act on it, and I know I’ve never felt that way. It’s like it’s this mysterious force that makes people choose what restaurants to go to, which side of the street to walk on, who to hang out with, what movies to see, what life-altering decisions to make, and I’m just sitting over here, non-ferrous and oblivious to it all. When I had sex, I made the decision based on a number of factors, such as “She wants to”, “I’m curious about this”, “orgasms are nice”, “It’s expected in a relationship”, and so on, but “I feel a subconscious pull to be inside her” was not one of them. Downstairs was not particularly involved in the decision and, in fact, required a bit of convincing to take part.
Sensual attraction? No. I’m not a fan of touching. Don’t really like cuddling, kissing, hand holding. I never see someone and think “I’d like to sit in their lap all day”.
Romantic attraction, I have no idea. I don’t really think so, I think I just convinced myself that I did, because I didn’t know what else to make of what I felt. There are some people where I feel a vague “Hey, I like that this person exists and like that they’re around sometimes” sense, but I never feel compelled to make it into more. It’s different than “I should be friends with this person”. And in the one case where there was the clear opportunity to turn it into a romantic relationship, that idea felt very unappealing. So yeah, I don’t know what that is.